Rudo ndikunzwa kunonzwisisika kune mhando dzakasiyana uye nhoroondo yekuonekwa: vamwe vanofananidza zviitiko zvayo ne "mhirizhonga yemheni", sechiedza changoerekana chichiratidza hupenyu, ichichipa chinangwa chitsva. Vamwe vanofananidza rudo nemishonga, iyo yakagadzirwa nekufamba kwemazuva, kutendeuka kuva duva rakanaka, nekuda kwehupenyu hunoedza humwe hutano hwakakosha hwaidiwa: kunyatsoteerera kune mumwe nemumwe, kubatana kukunda zvipingamupinyi uye basa repfungwa pane iwe pachako.
Pasinei nemafungiro aya akasiyana nemakadhi, marudzi ose erudo ane chinhu chinowanzoonekwa: iyi inonzwa isinganzwisisiki uye isingazivikanwi iyo kuparara uye kuitika hakugone kutaurirwa. Nokudaro, vazhinji vanonetseka pamusoro pekuchengetedza rudo rwehupenyu, vakapa zvose zvisingafanozivikanwi zvese zvinokanganisa zvichaitika izvo zvose zvinogona kuzvisimbisa, uye kuzviisa pasina.
Nzira yekuchengetedza sei rudo kubva kure?
Kana kuonekwa kwerudo kunogona kusanganiswa nehupfumi husingagoni kukanganiswa, zvino zvinokwanisika kuwedzera hupenyu huno maererano nekuda kwahwo. Zvichida mune zvakanyanya kusimba rudo rudo ruchiri kure. Nzira yekuchengetedza rudo, pakutanga, inofanira kukurudzira mwoyo, asi kune mamwe matanho ari pasi rose kune vose. Kubvira pano isu tiri kutaura nezvorudo, kwete ukama, tichaisa pfungwa pamamiriro emukati emudiwa:
- tariro yezvekuonana zvakare. Kunewo rudo rusingadiwi, runoita kwemakumi emakore, kana munhu asingatarisi kuti iye rimwe zuva achabatana neaanoda. Zvisinei, pane dzimwe nguva, vanhu kuitira kuchengetedza manzwiro aya, unofanirwa kuziva kuti rimwe zuva munhu waunoda achava pedyo;
- anofara mberi kana ramangwana. Kana vanhu vaifara vasati vaparadzana, dzimwe nguva unoda kutendeukira kune izvi zvinorangarirwa, zvichitsigira "mu tonus" chimiro chechimwe chinhu chekunamatira. Kana pasina chibvumirano chakapfuura, iwe unofanirwa kuisa mafungiro uye kutendeukira kune ramangwana: fungidzira kuti zvichave zvakadini pamwe chete, kuronga zvirongwa, uye kurarama sekunge munhu waunoda atove aripo. Asi pano pane ngozi yekugadziriswa mumarangariro asina chinhu, saka hazvifaniri kuve mumamiriro akadaro kwenguva refu.
Nzira yekuchengetedza sei rudo muwanano?
Zvinosuruvarisa, kurambana kunowanzojairika munguva yedu: iyo inobatanidza nezvinetso zvezuva nezuva, apo simba rose revakaroorana rinoshandiswa pakugadzirisa kwavo, uye nechokuti icho chakavanzika chakakonzera manzwiro enyama, uye, hongu, nenguva iyo inoshanduka zvose. Kana iwe uchienzanisa vanhu vaviri varipo iye zvino, ndokubva watarisa kumashure, uye unozvienzanisa, zvino zvingave kuti ivo vachave vanhu vakasiyana. Kubva pamashoko okuti "Ndinokuda" kumubvunzo wekuti "sei kuchengeta rudo rwemurume" inenge makore mashanu: murume nomudzimai vanoroora, vana vanoonekwa, zvinhu zvose zvinoshandiswa kunze kwemaitiro ehukama. Nokudaro, kuti udzidze kuchengetedza rudo mumhuri, unofanira kutanga kuterera hukama, kwete manzwiro:
- kuwedzera zvakasiyana. Iro mazano anoita seanal, asi kunze kwaro kwose: kana iwe ukazununguka "bytovuhe", saka kunyange rudo rwakasimba zvikuru runoputika: harungambove neine nzvimbo mumoyo mako. Nokuda kwehari nehanya, zvakadai seku "kugadzirisa muimba yekugezera," hapana nguva yekuona rudo rwako kune umwe munhu. Saka, rega imba yako ive isina kukodzera, asi kutsigira manzwiro ari pamwero wakakodzera zvinodiwa: ndiani anoda imba yakachena isina mufaro mukati maro?
- kuonekwa. Zera kuchinja hakufaniri kuva chikonzero chekukanganwa nezvekuonekwa kwakanaka. Varume nevakadzi "vanoda" nemaziso, nzeve uye kubata, saka vaviri vacho vanofanira kugara vachitarisa zvakanaka, kunhuhwira zvakanaka uye vave nehurukuro inonakidza yekutaurirana, kuitira kuti vasanyengerana.
- kugara uchichinja unhu. Kuti murume nomudzimai varatidze kufarira mumwe nomumwe, vanofanira kuratidza kufarira ivo pachavo. Tsvaga hobby, shandura, dzidza zvinhu zvitsva, uye zvinonyanya kukosha - usakanganwa kuzvigovera nemumwe wako.
Nzira yekuchengetedza sei rudo muukama hwepabonde?
Iyo "Achilles" chitsitsinho "yehukama hwemakore refu ndeyekuti havatauri kumagumo anonzwisisika - hurumende yakabatanidzwa uye kuberekwa kwevana. Nokudaro, mhinduro kumubvunzo wokuti "Sei kuchengetedza manzwiro muhukama hwakadaro?" Munyaya iyi iri nyore: unoda kuramba uchikudziridza. Unyanzvi hwepfungwa, swedera pedyo, kuisa mararamiro, nekurera vana. Ukama huri "hunova" pane imwe nzvimbo, hune ngozi yakawanda yekuguma nokuti avo vanobvumirana vanoziva zvisinganzwisisiki, izvo zvinotungamirira pasina.
Nzira yekusimbisa sei rudo?
Masayendisiti anopa mazano akawanda pamusoro pekudzivirira uye kuita kuti rudo ruwedzere.
- tibatsire muvakidzani kuvaka humbo hwakanaka;
- Nguva dzose taurirana kune mumwe nemumwe, kusimbisa hukama hwepedyo;
- edza kuita mabasa epamba pamwe chete: kutanga kubva pakugadzirira kwemanheru uye kupedzisa nekusarudzwa kwekunamatira;
- Usaedza kuchinja zvakasiyana-siyana umwe neumwe: gamuchira rudo sezvazviri. Yeuka zvakaitika kune mukadzi akwegura kubva munhau yenyaya yevabati vehove uye hove: akagara pachitsiko chakakanganisika apo aigara achida, achida zvimwe. Dzidza kuonga zvaunazvo;
- kuronga hutano humwe, huchaunza mufaro kune vose.
Kukahadzika kuti kubudirira kwematare emakurukota hakusi kudiwa, saka panzvimbo yekufunga kuti haufaniri kurasikirwa nerudo, enda kumabhizimisi: rudo, uye unakidzwe nemanzwiro aya, uye hauzowaniki kubva kwauri.