"Vakaroora zvisingadikanwi" - mutemo wechikoro unofadza kana kuratidzwa kwechikadzi chechikadzi. Mushure mezvose, zvinogamuchirwa kuti chero musikana anoda kuroora, ichi ndicho chinangwa chekuvapo kwake.
Sei vakadzi vachida kuroorwa?
Mubvunzo ndewokuti vasikana vanoda kutsvaga, ivo vakwegura seyika, saka pane zvidzidzo zvakawanda pamusoro penyaya iyi. Iyo yekupedzisira yakaratidza zvinotevera.
- Pakutanga (30% yevanhu vakapindura) zvakazoitika kuti vakadzi vanoda kuva nekutsigirwa uye kuvimba mune ramangwana. Izvi zvinotsanangurwa nyore nyore nehutano hwepanyama - chinangwa chechisikirwo chemukadzi kubereka mwana, asi panguva yekusununguka uye mushure maro mukadzi anoda rubatsiro rwemurume. Ndicho chikonzero vakadzi vakanzwisisa kudiwa kwekuonekwa kwomwana muhupenyu hwavo, saka vanoda kuisa hukama hukama hwavo hukama.
- Mukadzi anoti "Ndinoda chaizvo kuroora", zvichida, ari kutsvaga muwanano yerudo. Mune mhaka ipi zvayo, iyi ndiyo yechipiri inonyanya kuzivikanwa (22%) mhinduro kumubvunzo wechishuvo chekusunga pfumo. Zvechokwadi, unogona kukakavara kuti unogona kuda kunze kwemuchato. Asi sarudzo iyi inowanzosarudzwa nevakadzi vanoda kutsvaka "muchinda", havana munhu chaiwo. Zvakanaka, avo vanochengetedza ukama husingagumi, tenda kuti mumuchato, rudo runonyatsovimbika.
- Sei vakadzi vachida kuroorwa? Nokuti izvi ndizvo zvinoitwa nevanhu. Amai, vanasekuru, hanzvadzi dzeshamwari - vose vanotanga kunyatsomunzwira tsitsi musikana asina kuroora, kunyange kana achiti anoda kusununguka zvakadaro. Kunyange nenyaya dzose uye madzimai 'manyozha anoguma nemadzishe achiwana machinda avo. Nokudaro, mumadzimai edzimusoro mune maonero-munhu anofanira kuedza kuroorana nemasimba ose. Uyu maonero akagoverwa ne19% evanhu vakapindura.
- Sei vasikana vasina kuroorwa vasina kugadzikana? Uye pano zvikonzero zvehupenyu hwevanhu ndezvekupomerwa mhosva, 18 muzana yevakapindura vakati vanotenda kuti vanogona kuzadzikiswa zvizere mumhuri. Vamwe vanotya maonero evanhu - vasina kuroora nekunakidza glue label "yakashata".
- Vanenge 5% vevanhu vakapindura vanotya kusurukirwa - kamwe-kamwe mukukwegura girazi remvura haringapiwi kune ani zvake.
- Vakasara 6% ndivo vanofunga nezvepakutanga. Vamwe vasikana vanoda muchato nekuda kwechikwata chemuchato uye rwendo rwomumakumbo, mumwe munhu haadi kurarama nevabereki vavo, uye mumwe munhu anoda kuzvirumbidza kumhete yevasikana pamhete.
Iwe unofunga kuroora usina kufara, asi kwete kutanga?
Sezvo maonero evanhu ari kuumba maonero edu, zvingava zvakanaka kuziva zvazvinofunga nezvezera rakanaka rekuroora.
Pasinei nechido chekuroora, vakadzi vazhinji vanotenda kuti nguva yakakodzera yewanano makore 25-27. Sosaiti inobata imba zvakanaka pazera remakore 27-35, asi vanhu vanonyunyuta pamusoro pevasikana vechidiki nevaya vachazoroora kokutanga mushure memakore makumi matatu.
Kana mukadzi achitora nguva shomanana, sangano rinofanira kunge richifungidzira kuti rakaderera-angadai ari kutsvaga murume nemudzimai kwemakore akawanda kudaro, haaida kuroorwa, asi iye zvino akawana, chokwadi, vamwe vakaderera.
Apo musikana anoti "Ndine makore gumi nemasere, ndinoda kuroorwa", iyewo haagoni kuvanza kubva pamhosva yekuona uye makuhwa. Kunyanya tsitsi vanotaura nyaya pamusoro pavo kana pamusoro pemusikana, kuti haana kubudirira sei kuroorana pakutanga.
Kupfupisa, tinogona kutaura kuti panguva yekuroora, mukadzi anofanira kuwana dzidzo, kuwana basa, ave nehutano hwakasimbiswa. Asi zvakanyanyisa zvakasimba muwanano hazvina kukodzera.
Nzira yekurega sei kuda kutsvaga?
Dzimwe nguva mukadzi anoda kuroorana zvakanyanya zvokuti zvinomudzivisa kubva kuvaka ukama hwakanaka nevarume - avo vasingazogadziriswi nemutsara wepamusoro pahuma yevakadzi "Nditorei kuhofisi yebazi"? Nzira yekuve sei munyaya iyi?
Zvakakosha kuti uzvinzwisise pachako, kuti unzwisise chaunoreva iwe nekuroorana - mhemberero yakanaka, hutsika hwevanhu, kusikwa kwemhuri inofara? Kuti upindure mubvunzo uyu zvakakosha kuti murume wacho haanzwi chinangwa chako chokubvisa rusununguko rwake, asi chido chako chekuva mudzimai ane hanya uye akatendeka, kumupa boka revana, nezvimwewo. Kana iwe uchida hovha, iwe unofanirwa kuzvibvuma iwe pachako. Tenda, iwe uchazogona chete kuzadzisa chido chako, kuwana munhu uyo, apo unonzwisisa izvo chaizvo zvaunoda kubva muupenyu. Ngwarira kuva pasi pesimba revanhu vasingatauri, zvichida hauna kuwana chero chinhu nokuti iwe haufaniri kuchida, asi uchaenderera mberi pamusoro pevabereki neshamwari.