Kamwe kamwe muhupenyu hwemunhu mumwe nomumwe, pfungwa yekudaidza munhu kunze kwekugara kwayo inoshanyira. Paunenge uine majee akasiyana zvakasiyana-siyana: kubva kune yakanyanya kusakuvadza kusvika kumatambo chaiwo.
1. Edza kutamba mutambo. Iwe unobvunza vamwe vanhu mibvunzo mune urongwa uhwu: "Vangani vachava 1 + 1?" 2 + 2? 4 + 4? ". Zvadaro vabvunze kuti vatumidze mishonga. Anenge nguva dzose vanhu vanodana karoti.
2. Pakukakavadzana kana kukakavadzana nomumwe munhu, edza kuramba wakadzikama. Zvichida, huwandu hwekunakidzwa kwako hunofanira kunge hwakaderera kupfuura hwemuvengi wako. Izvi zvinokonzera vanhu kutaura zvinhu zvisingaverengeki izvo iwe, zvakare, unogona kushandisa zvinopesana navo.
3. Kana uchida kubvumirwa kubva kumunhu, zvino zvakakwana kuti udonhedze musoro wako panguva yaunobvunza mubvunzo unoda. Kazhinji kazhinji vanobvumirana newe kana kupa mvumo.
4. Munhu wose anoziva chiito apo vanhu vaviri vanosimudza ruoko uye vanorova muchanza cheumwe munhu, vachitaura pavanenge vachiti: "Ipai mashanu!". Zvechokwadi, vose kamwe kamwe vakashaya. Kusvika panguva inotevera iwe unogona kuramba wakanyarara mukurumbira wako, panguva yekotoni kutarisa muromo weumwe shamwari. Nditende, iwe haugoni kupotsa.
5. Vakawanda vevanhu vakatarisana nemamiriro ezvinhu kana mumusoro chero rwiyo runyunyuta runokanganisa kubva mumamiriro ezvinhu nguva dzose rwakakanganisa. Kuti usakurumidza kubvisa, rongedza kupfurikidza kumusoro wemusoro wei rwiyo urwu. Chiitiko chakadaro chinosanganiswa neinozvinzi Zigarnik effect, iyo inosanganisira mukuti zviito zvisina kupera chiyeuchidzo chomunhu chinorangarira zviri nani kudarika zvakapedzwa.
6. Nzira yakanakisisa yekukurukura nevana. Vabereki vanogara vachitarisana nokusateerera kwevana. Kana iwe uchida kuti mwana aite chimwe chinhu kana kudya, edzai kuvaka imba yako nenzira iyi: "Dharira, inwa mukaka!". Mwana wacho anoramba. Zvino mubvunze mubvunzo: "Kubva kupi mukombe - bhuruu kana tsvuku - ungada kunwa here?". Achasarudza muvara uye anwe mukaka. Elementary.
7. Pakukurukurirana, edza kuramba wakanyarara. Kune pfungwa yokuti vanhu havadi kunyarara zvakanyanyisa uye kunyarara, saka vachaita zvakanakisisa kuti vagadzirise. Iva nemoyo murefu.
8. Kana iwe uchida kuti mutauriri wako atende mune zvenhema dzako, edza kutaura zvishoma nezvako pamusoro pako. Somuenzaniso, panzvimbo yekuti, "Kwete, ndakanga ndisiri mumba maJakobho. Ndaiva naRandy nguva dzose. " Edza kuti: "Kwete, ndakanga ndisiri naJames panguva iyoyo. Ndave ndavhara chimbuzi chake, uye ndinofunga kuti vabereki vake havadi kundiona zvakare mumba mavo. Saka ndaiva naRandy. "
9. Mune kambani huru, unogona kutungamirira chiduku chiduku. Taura anecdote. Munhu wokutanga waunotarisa kuti aone kupindura kwake ndeyepedyo kwauri.
10. Nyara mumwe munhu. Kumbira munhu kuti atarise mumaziso ako uye usavafambisa. Zvadaro bvunza kuti shamwari yako idyei mazuva matatu akapfuura. Maererano nehuwandu, vanhu vakawanda havagoni kupindura, nokuti zvakaoma kukuyeuka mashoko pasina kusvitsa maziso ako.
11. Kana iwe uchitaura muveveve ne interlocutor, zvinokuvimbisa kuti achakupindura iwewo.
12. Paunenge uchiedza kuwana chimwe chinhu, kakawanda kupfuura kwete, uri kutarisa kubva kurudyi kuenda kuruboshwe pane kutarisa kubva kuruboshwe kuenda kurudyi. Nemhaka yeizvi, haugoni kuona chinhu chakarasikirwa nokukurumidza, nokuti kutarira kwako kunongorongedzerwa mune imwe nzira uye mune imwe nzira. Edza kuchinja kufamba kwemaziso ako.
13. Kana iwe uchida kuti mumwe munhu atende munyaya isinganzwisisiki, dzokororazve katatu, uwedzere kune imwe neimwe nhoroondo zvimwe. Somuenzaniso, taura kuti: "Unoyeuka mamiriro ezvinhu kuchikoro apo mudzidzisi wedu akapinda mumotokari mudzidzisi wezvidzidzo mumatokari!" Kazhinji kacho, kwenguva yekutanga hapana munhu achakutenda iwe, asi kana muchipiri uye chechitatu iwe unowedzera zvinyorwa, zvino zvirokwazvo munhu achasarudza kuti nyaya yako ichokwadi.
14. Kushamisika shamwari dzako nekushandisa nzira inotevera. Kumbira mumwe munhu kuti ataure shoko rauri kupora. Kana munhu paanopindura, pakarepo mubvunze mubvunzo: "Unoitei iwe paunoona chiedza chemavara?". Iwe uchashamiswa nemhinduro yavo isina kururama.
15. Kuti uwane nzvimbo yemunhu iwe pachako, zvakakwana kubvumira munhu uyu kukupa ruremekedzo.
16. Chinhu chiduku chekukunda. Kana iwe uchinzwa kuti muvengi wako ari kutamba zvakanaka uye iwe unotanga kupa nzvimbo yako, ipapo kumubvunza mubvunzo: "Iwe unotamba sei zvakanaka zvakadaro"? Mushure mokunge mubvunzo uyu, mutambo uchishandura chimiro, nekuti muvengi wako anotanga kufunga pamusoro pemubvunzo wako.
17. Kuti uite runyengeri kune munhu ari kuedza kuverenga chimwe chinhu, iwe unongoda kutumidza mazita emhando pane nhamba dzasarudzwa dzakasarudzwa. Uropi hwavo huchakurumidza kuparadzwa.
18. Isa chiitiko kune mumwe wemhuri yako, kuratidza kuti hakuna munhu anogona kuona mukaka wemafuta akasiyana-siyana kuti unye. Ita zvinotevera: sunga "ziso" ziso, zvino ipa mukaka kuedza. Mukombe wokupedzisira wemukaka unotsiviwa nemuchero wearangi. Mumuviri wemunhu uri kugadzirira kugamuchira michero yekurai, saka mvura isingatarisirwi inogona kukonzera kurutsa. Iva nechokwadi chokuti uchengete chigadziko newe kana ukasarudza kuedza kwakadaro.
19. Kana iwe uchida kubvisa chimwe chinhu uchifamba, zvino zvakakwana kupa shamwari yako chinhu ichi, muchifananidza kutaura naye. Pakukurukurirana munhu anongotora zvose zvaanopiwa pasina kufunga nezvechinhu chero chipi zvacho.
20. Chakavanzika chokukunda mutambo unozivikanwa: "Dombo, zvisi, pepa." Usati waenda kunotanga kuverenga, bvunza mubvunzo wega woga kumutauriri wako. Ipapo ramba uchiverenga sokunge hapana chakaitika. Kazhinji kazhinji munhu achasarudza magetsi, achiita kuti rudzi rwekudzivirira ruzivo rwekuziva kwake ruite.
21. Maererano nekutsvakurudza, munhu anokwanisa kutonga vanhu nekubatsirwa nemaziso. Vanhu nguva dzose vanotarisa kune zvavanenge vachida kuenda, naizvozvo, ivo vachatanga kuongorora maonero enyu kuti vaone kuti uri kuenda kupi. Kugamuchirwa kwakadaro kunoreva kuti iwe unogona kuvhiringidza mumwe munhu kana ukatarisa kune chinzvimbo chekuenda uko kukanganisika kunogona kuitika.
22. Uye yakanyanya kunyengedza, asi inonyanyisa kunyengera. Endai kunotora kune munhu uye mumubvunze kuti avhare maziso ake uye edza kufungidzira mutambo wemakadhi. Kunyange zvazvo munhu akabatikana, unogona kudya zvese zvekudya uye kutiza zvisingabvumirwi.