Chero hukama huri hwakaipa pachahwo. Mushure mezvose, munyaya iyi munhu haakwanisi kuita zvakasununguka, anobva kune dzimwe mamiriro ezvinhu. Kutenderera, nenzira, tsika isina izvo zvisingabviri panguva ino kuti ipo.
Manzwiro uye codependence murudo
Co-dependence ishoko rakadaro, iro ratichakurukura pamwe nehukama hwevanhu. Rudo codependence rwakafanana nechirwere chinokonzera kusanzwisisika kunoratidzika, chirwere chepfungwa uye nezvimwe zvakawanda zvisina kunaka izvo zvinosanganisira pamwe chete " kushamwaridzana kwekutendeseka ". Vamwe havatombofungi nezvekutarisana nekodependence, ivo vanogutsikana nemamiriro ezvinhu iye zvino. Saka, havadi kuchinja chero chinhu, vanochifarira, kunyanya, vachichidya pamwe chete.
Co-dependence - mhuri inorwara
Haisi chakavanzika chokuti kusawirirana mumhuri kwakakurumbira. Pashure pemakore akawanda ekugara pamwe chete, vanhu vakaroorwa, vanonzwa rudo, vanoda uye kuvimba kune mumwe wako. Izvi zvakajairika, uye kunyange-zvakanaka! Zvinenge zvakanyanya kuipa kana vanhu vaviri vasina kubatana, kubatana uye kusimbisa ukama hwavo. Asi kune matambudziko akasiyana-siyana muhukama huri hukama huripo hunozviratidza.
Zviratidzo zvekuregererwa
Zvichida vanhu vari panharaunda iyi yehukama hwavo havasisiri mufaro wokuva pamwe chete, zuva nezuva vanodya zviitiko zvakapfuura, zvakanaka uye rudo rwechirangaridzo kubva kare. Zvinosuruvarisa, hazvisi kusimbisa hukama munguva ino. Dambudziko rekuregererwa kwechokwadi nderokuti munhu wose anoona kuvimba kwake pane imwe, asi haaiti chero chinhu kune vaanoda. Munhu wose anoda chiito chekugadzirisa, zvakasununguka, kwete kubva pachake. Anoda kuti zvose zvive "sepakutanga", zvinoreva kuti anoda kuda, asi haagoni nekuda kwekusava nekutanga. Uyu munhu anongoramba achiziva mutoro wekuvandudza hukama uye chido chekuita chimwe chinhu pachake. Zvose zvinovakirwa chete pakutenda mune zvichazove mune ramangwana sezvazvaimbova. Nzira yekubuda kwekodependence iri nyore: tanga iwe pachako uchiita chimwe chinhu kune vanhu vashoma, tora zvavanoda, uye usatevera iwe pachako! Pakupedzisira, iwe mose muchawana mhinduro imwe chete! Ngationei zvino kuti tingabvisa sei uye tisingabhadharwi nekodependence.
Co-dependence muhukama - kurapwa
Kana iwe wakashamisika kuti ungakunda sei-kuderera, taura neyanyanzvi uye mhuri dzepfungwa dzepfungwa kana edza kugadzirisa dambudziko iwe pachako. Kutanga, sarudza zvinhu mukati mako. Heino mibvunzo yaunofanira kupindura usati waita:
- Ukama hwako hunokosha kwauri here?
- Unozvikoshesa here?
- Chii chaicho? Nemhaka yei?
- Vanokuda iwe panguva ino here?
- Chii chaicho?
- Chii chaungada kuchinja mavari?
- Chii chaunoda kuchinatsiridza?
- Unoda kuitei?
- Ihu hukama hwehukama hunoda kusvika pakuguma?
- Ndeipi mikana yezvi? Uye zvingasarudzwa?
- Ndeapi mikana iripo muhukama hwechokwadi?
- Chii chaunoziva pamusoro pewakada wako chakadaro chinopa chivimbo chokuti tichabudirira?
- Chii chaunoda kumurondedzera kana kumuudza, dzidza kubva kwaari, kuitira kuti uve sangano uye unokwanisa kuvaka ukama hunogutsa?
- Ndezvipi chaizvo uye wakagadzirira sei kuita iwe pachako?
Kana mumwe nomumwe nguva nenguva achizvibvunza mibvunzo yakadaro, ukama huri pakati pevanhu hwaizova huri nani uye hwakasimba. Mushure mezvose, chinhu chakakosha zvikuru chinonyangadza kuponesa utano uye simba rehukama. Usadzosa mamiriro acho ezvinhu kune chinotambudza, asi edza kuita zvose panguva. "Kapu ndiyo nzira yokudya." Uye zvino nyika yako pachayo uye nyika yemumwe munhu ichava yakajeka zvikuru uye inofadza!