Kazhinji, madzimai, aneta neukama husina kubudirira, hwaro hwaiva nemanzwiro anotyisa, sarudza "asi iye, rudo urwu, ini ndicharoora nekuverenga!". Asi kazhinji pane vasikana vakasarudza kuita imba maererano nehuwandu, vanotarisa, sekunge vakaora, vasina chinhu chitsvene, vanoshambidzwa nemufaro mukuru nematombo uye vanonzi mazwi akaipa. Ichokwadi here icho chinokanganisa shanje chaiyo kana runyerekupe rukuru, uye kuroorana kwekushanda ndicho chinhu chokupedzisira icho mukadzi chete asingazviremekedzi angasarudza?
Kuroorana nerudo kana kuti nyore?
Pakutanga kuona, hukama hwekuverenga hunoratidzika husemesa uye hwakasiyana nehupombwe hunopiwa nezvifeve, chete tamputi mupasipoti. Asi izvi zvinongotanga kuonekwa, nokuti kana iwe uchifunga nezvazvo, vasikana vane makore gumi nemasere vanopofumadzwa nemanzwiro vanomhanyira kuhofisi yeChinyorwa. Vakadzi vakwegura vachiri kufunga kuti kana vakasarudzwa avo vachakwanisa kupa mhuri, ingave achabata mudzimai wake nevana uye kana achida kuzviita. Uye usafunga kuti ichi ndicho chinangwa chevakadzi vasina mwoyo uye vasina hanya, vanasikana vakawanda vane maziso anopenya, vasati vasarudza kuroorwa, kana vasina kuyerwa zvose zvinobudirira uye zvakashata, saka ivo vakafunga kuti "tichararama sei ". Uye hapana chinhu mune pfungwa idzi dzinopandukira - iwe hauzozadzi rudo. Uyezve, pane nyaya dzakawanda pawakaroorana pasina manzwiro chaiwo, asi nekutenda kwakasimba kuti murume achava murume akanaka, vakadzi shure kwechinguva vakawira murudo naye. Saka kuroorana nekuverenga hazvibvi rudo, sezvinowanodavira.
Iye zvino tine chokwadi chokuti kune imwe nhengo yemukati inobva pakufunga kwepfungwa uye kwete murudo rukuru, tinogona kutaura pamusoro pegadziriro yekare yekuroorana nekuverenga.
Vakaroora nekuverenga - zvinotsigira uye zvinopera
Neshoko rokuti "kuroorana nekuverenga" ndeye tsika yekuziva kuguma kwehukama hwewanano pamwe nekunakira zvikamu zvose. Kazhinji kacho kubatsirwa kwacho kunoratidzwa mubvumirano yemuchato. Hupenyu huri mumhuri yakadai sei nyore? Uye izvi zvose zvinodaro kana iwe wakasarudza kuroora chete nekuda kwemari yemurume kana iye uye iwe wakanaka. Kubvumirana, kurarama nemumwe munhu anonyangadza kwauri kwakanyanya kuoma, kunyange kana uri muurongwa hwezvinhu iwe haungambove wakanyadziswa. Uyewo zvakanyanya zvinoenderana nesangano rechikwata. Kazhinji vakadzi vanobhadhara zvishoma, vachivimba nevanyori vemurume anouya. Saka usava chero zvakadaro, mareji anokwidzwa nemumwe wako wemangwana, achave aripo pakutanga kutarisa zvaanoda, asi hapana munhu ane hanya newe, zvichida, haazoiti. Nokudaro, kugadzirirwa kwebvumirano yemuchato kunofanira kutaurirwa zvakanyatsonaka. Mukuwedzera, kuroora kuverenga, iwe unofanirwa kuva wakagadzirira mazano anotevera mumhuri yemhuri:
- Kunyatsogadzirisa pamusoro pezviito zvemukadzi, nokuda kwekufamba kwake uye shamwari. Iko kunokonzerwa kwete nekupomera-kunyunyuta komudzimai, asi nechishuvo chekuziva kuti vana vachabva kubva kwaari, uye kwete kubva ku barman uyo akwezva mudzimai wechidiki. Muchiitiko ichi, mudzimai iyeye pachake akadzivirira muhukama hunoratidza kuratidza uye asingafungi, kunze kwekuti, chokwadi, reverse haina kunyorwa mubvumirano yemuchato. Kazhinji, kutonga kwakadaro kunonyangarika mushure mokunge vaviri vacho vawana mwana kana kuti chiyero chakanaka chevagari venhevedzwa musangano.
- Zvichida kupinda mu "gorosi regoridhe": mudzimai wako achapa zvose zvinodiwa, asi iwe hauzovi nekodzero yekuvhota. Izvi zvinokonzerwa nekuti munhu anofunga kuti mukadzi ndiye mumwe wezvaanotenga, semhuka yakasununguka - zvokudya uye kutarisirwa zviri pachena, asi ndiani angabvunza chipfuwo? Zvechokwadi, mamiriro ezvinhu aya anogona kungova chete kana mari yose iri kuiswa mumaoko emababa.
Zvinokwanisikawo kuti mudzimai wako haaoneke mubasa rako rekuona, achipedza nguva yakawandisa nguva yebhizimisi kuenda uye kushanda misangano. Asi vanhu vakawanda vakaita semamiriro ezvinhu aya - kana chete mari iri pakadhi haina kuguma.
Asi usafunga kuti zvinhu zvose zvakashata, kunyange mumutambo weklassical zviri nyore kune zvakakosha:
- Kubvunzwa nemativi maviri ezvakada, uye, nokudaro, kugutsikana kwakakwana kumativi ose maviri kubva pakubatana kwakadaro.
- Pano, chisarudzo chekuparara kwekuroorana hachibvumirwi, kunze kwezviitiko zvinoratidzwa musangano.