Munyika yemazuva ano, vakawanda chaizvo varume vanogara vachinwa doro zvakawanda. Izvi zvinokanganisa madzimai, vana uye ivo pachavo. Vazhinji vakadzi vanoda kuwana mazano anobatsira kubva kune chiremba wepfungwa pamusoro pezvinofanira kuitwa kana murume anonwa.
Chii chandinofanira kuita kana murume wangu akarara uye anonwa?
Kana murume achishandisa doro kanopfuura katanhatu pamwedzi, uye dzimwe nguva zuva rimwe nerimwe, iwe unogona kutaura pamusoro pekudhakwa. Ichi chinetso chinetso chakaoma kwazvo chisingakwanisi kugadziriswa pachako uye chinodikanwa mishandira yakawanda kubva kumudzimai uye murume. Murume anogona kureva nhema kumudzimai wake uye kururamisa mufambiro wake nekuneta, mamiriro ezvinhu kana kutsungirira kwevamwe shamwari dzinoshingaira kunwa kirasi yewaini, waini kana zvinodhaka zvakanyanya. Zvechokwadi, izvi zvinongova zvikonzero uye zvikonzero zvaanofukidzira utera hwake. Kuti urambe uchirwisana nekutswa kunwa doro, zvinokosha kuti uzive mazano pamusoro pezvinofanira kuitwa kana murume kazhinji anonwa:
- Unzwisise kuti kudhakwa ndiyo dambudziko remhuri yose uye zvakakosha kurwisana pamwe chete.
- Usaomerera pakukodha kana kushandisa madhiragi anokosha.
- Usatambudza murume wako nekunyomba nguva dzose, asi gara pasi uye edza kunzwisisa zvinokonzera kudhakwa kunwa doro.
- Edza kufamba shoma kune vaenzi, uko kune mukana wokunwa doro.
Varume vazhinji vanonwa kubva pakuti vanorasikirwa nekutenda mune simba ravo uye maitiro avo. Muchiitiko ichi, mukadzi anofanira kumupa kuvimba kwakadaro. Zvingava zvakanaka kuuya nechimwe chinhu chinonakidza, basa rinozochengeta murume wako zvakanyanya zvokuti haazove nenguva yekushandisa nguva yake yekuzorora paanonwa doro. Kazhinji, kana vakadzi vasingazivi zvokuita, kana murume anonwa zvakanyanya, vanotanga kuvhiringidza nekurambana kana vana. Izvi hazvibvumirwi. Nzvimbo yakadaro inogona kungowedzera mamiriro acho ezvinhu, asi haingauyi mhinduro yakanaka.
Chii chandinofanira kuita kana murume wangu anonwa kunwa?
Vamwe varume vanokwanisa kunwa nguva nenguva. Saka, semuenzaniso, vanozvichengeta varipo kwegore. Asi zvino matambudziko akawedzerwa anoita kuti vazvinzwe uye vanodururirwa kunwa kwevhiki, maviri, vatatu, uye dzimwe nguva mwedzi wose. Iyi inenge yakaoma mamiriro ezvinhu asingakwanise kugadziriswa pacharo. Nzira yakanakisisa ndeyokubatana nevadzidzisi, kukurukura nemunhu wezvepfungwa uyo achakwanisa kuziva chinetso, uye anopawo kurapa. Mune zvimwe zviitiko, vanachiremba vanopa mari chaiyo, pamwe chete nemagariro. Kazhinji, mushure mokunge uchitarisana nekurapwa kwakasiyana, pamwe nekushanda nevanofunga nezvepfungwa, kunouya mushonga wemunhu. Anobvisa kukanganisa.
Hazvina mhosva kuti mukadzi anotambudzika sei pamusoro pemubvunzo wezvinofanira kuitwa, kana murume anonwa nguva dzose, dambudziko rinogona kugadziriswa chete kana iye pachake achiziva dambudziko rake uye anoda kuchinja.
Kusiyana kwekurwisana nekudhakwa
Vakadzi vanobudirira kushandisa nzira dzakasiyana-siyana kuti varege kunwa murume wavo. Somuenzaniso:
- kwekanguva vanobva mumba;
- vanosunungurirwa kurambana uye vanovimbisa kutora magwaro kana vachiramba kunwa doro;
- rega kubika;
- kugumisa hukama hwepabonde;
- kunyatsoteerera murume wake uye usataura;
- kuripfura pavhidhiyo mune doro rinodhakwa;
- shandisa vana senzira.
Zvechokwadi, nzira dzakadaro dzine kodzero yekuvapo, kunyanya kana munhu asinganwi kakawanda uye anogona kuzvidzora pachake. Zvinosuruvarisa, apo kudhakwa kwakava chikamu chinokosha chehupenyu hwomurume wake, zvisarudzo zvakadaro hazviiti. Vanogona kungokonzera utsinye uye vanoramba vachimwa. Muchiitiko ichi, mhinduro yakarurama yakanyanya kuve yekukodha kwevanyanzvi. Panguva imwe chete, munhu anofanirwa kunyatsochenjerera pamusoro pomunhu uyu. Zviri nani kuti azvidire ivo pachavo.