Munhu anokwana zvakakwana anobva paudiki - akakurira pakati pevabereki vanodikanwa avo vanove vakakwanawo. Kuva munhu mukuru, munhu ane chirwere chekuita zvakakwana anogona kuva munhu akabudirira uye kutora nzvimbo dzinotarisirwa, asi kazhinji kuperedzerwa kunoita kuti munhu ave neurotic nekushaya mufaro kune hupenyu .
Ndiani akakwana?
Munhu anokwana zvakakwana ndiye munhu ari kuedza kukwana, kukwana mune zvose. Kwaari, hapana hafu-toni, asi pane mapurisa maviri "akakwana" uye "asina kukwana". Munhu akakwana haazoiti chinhu chakanaka kana achitenda kuti haakwanisi kuwana mhinduro yakanaka. Zvinorehwa neshoko rokuti kukwana zvakakwana kunobva kuna Fr. kukwana - kukwana. Kuziva vanhu vevanhu vakakwana hakusi kwakaoma.
Nzira yekuziva sei kuti iwe uri munhu akakwana?
Iyo syndrome yekuremekedza mudzidzi yakawanda uye inosanganisira zvinhu zvakasiyana siyana zvinoratidzwa zvakajeka uye kuratidzwa kweunhu hweunhu. Zviratidzo zveunhu akakwana:
- kukosha kwekuchengeta zvinhu zvose pasi pesimba;
- zvinhu zvose zvinofanira kuitwa panzvimbo yakakwirira, mamwe mhinduro haagamuchirwi;
- chido chekufadza, sevamwe kubva paudiki;
- kudzivisa - nekuda kwekuzvigadzirisa mabasa ehunonyanya kukosha uye kusakwanisa "kuenda" nematanho mashomanene kusvika kune chinangwa;
- kutya kwekanganiso, kukanganisa;
- kuzvitsoropodza iwe nevamwe;
- "Ini ini!" Muzvinhu zvose, nguva dzose uye kwose kwose.
Kunaka kwekutendeseka kwakanaka kana kwakaipa here?
Kutadza kufanana nechirwere kana kwete - kazhinji vanhu vakavhara vakakomberedzwa nevakakwana, uye dzimwe nguva rinoratidzika sekumanikidzirwa kweunhu, kunyanya mukusanganiswa nechitenderera, asi ichi hachisi chirwere, kunyange chinounza kutambura kukuru. Kuita zvinhu zvakakwana kunobatsira kana zvakakwana, munhu anoedza kuzvivandudza uye zviito zvake zvinowedzera mukati make:
- kushanda zvakaoma;
- kutsoropodza kunovaka;
- kukanganisa;
- discipline;
- kugara uchikura munhu ;
- chido chekuvandudza unyanzvi hwavo zvakare.
Munhu anokwana zvakakwana uye unyanzvi hwokutsvaga "unovandudza" mune nzira inokuvadza, nechinotyisa kune zvakanyanya muzvinhu zvose:
- workaholism;
- kusawirirana kutsoropodza;
- obtrusiveness;
- kukanganisa;
- Mindfulness;
- chido chekuve wakakwana mumativi ese uye semugumisiro-kusakwanisa kuzadzisa zvinangwa.
Nzira yekubvisa kukanganisa kwakadini?
Nzira yekutarisana nekutendeseka mukati mako? Kana mubvunzo uyu wakamuka, saka pane kuziva dambudziko - iri danho riri kune iwe pachako uye chido chekuchinja. Nyanzvi dzepfungwa dzinokurudzira matanho anotevera kuti abvise chirwere chakakwana:
- kugamuchira kukanganisa - izvi zvinoreva kuzvigamuchira uye vamwe mukusakwana, hakuna vanhu vakanaka;
- kukwana uye kutsvaga kwakakosha hakuna muganhu, naizvozvo zvakakosha kuisa zvinangwa zvatiri isu;
- kurega kuzvienzanisa nevamwe vanhu, pachava nenguva dzakanaka, dzakanaka, dzakakomba, saka kuenzanisa kunogamuchirwa chete neavo nhasi nevaya vakange varipo zuro;
- kushandiswa kuduku uye zvirongwa zvisingabatsiri zvekuvandudza - mamwe mabasa;
- pasina zvikanganiso hakuna chiitiko;
- rega kutya kutsoropodzwa nekupiwa mhosva, uchiyeuka kuti vamwe vanhu vanotonga kubva pane zvavanowana, kutya, kukundikana.
Kuita zvakakwana - kurapa
Syndrome yekutendeseka haisi yepfungwa yepfungwa inofanirwa, uye unhu hwekuchinja hunoitika zvishoma nezvishoma nekuda kwekuratidzwa kwehutano hwepfungwa, munhu anokura kuora mwoyo, hakuna kuwirirana naye uye vamwe, kushungurudzika uye kusava nehanya zvinowedzera. Kurapa kunonyanya kushandiswa kwezvinodhaka hakusipo, kana chirwere chinonzi neurosis chakagadzirwa zvikuru, murapa anogona kupa chiratidzo chechirwere chechirwere pamwe nekushandiswa kwevanhu vanorwara nehutachiona uye vakanyarara.
Kuziva kwakakwana mune zvepfungwa
Nyanzvi dzezvepfungwa dzinokamura kukwana mukati moutano, yakakwana, inowanikwa mune vanhu vazhinji uye neurotic. Kutadza kufanana nehutano hwepfungwa kunogona kungofungidzirwa chete kana ikava inonyadzisa, pamwe nemushandi wese ane zviratidzo zvehutano. MaCanagist psychologists muzvidzidzo zvavo akacherechedza zvinhu zvinotevera zvekutendeseka:
- I-unhu hwakakwana hutsika hwemunhu kuzvigadzirira zvaanoda kuita mubasa, kuisa zvinangwa.
- Kuita zvinhu zvakakwana kune chinangwa kune vamwe - mitemo yakakwirira uye kutarisira kwekuita kwakakwana kubva kune vamwe vanhu.
- Kuita zvinhu zvakakwana kune chinangwa munyika - chido chisingawanikwi chekuti zvinhu zvose zviri munyika zvakapoteredza zvinofanira kunge zvakanaka, zvakajeka, uye zvakabatana.
- Social perfectionism. Izvo zvinodiwa nomunhu wacho kuti asangane nemitemo uye zvinotarisirwa zvevanhu.
Kuparadza kukanganisa
Neurotic kana pathological perfectionism inokonzerwa nokutya kukundikana. Chido chekubwinya muzvinhu zvose chinova chekunyengera, pamwe chete nemararamiro eurotic. Neurotic perfectionists vanozvitsanangurira ivo vanofananidza-zvakaenzana, kazhinji kwete kutarisana nevanokwanisa. Sangano rinosvika kune chinangwa hachibvi pamanzwiro ekuzvikudza, asi kunze kwekutya kukanganisa uye kurambwa, hapana kugutsikana nekugadzirisa uye zvigumisiro zvinowanikwa.
Kuziva zvakakwana muhudhi
Kururama kwepfungwa mukupenda ndiko kutsvaga kwevanyori kusvika kune yakanakisisa mufananidzo wakakwana. Muenzaniso wekutendeseka kwakakonzerwa naLoberto da Vinci "Murume weVetruvinsky" muviri wakakwana unofananidzwa. Kubva pane chimiro ichi, chivakwa cheFrance chakagadzira modulor - chirongwa chepasi rose chinowirirana chinoshandiswa mukugadzira nekugadzira.
Anonyanya kukwana pasi rose
Vaimbi, vanyori, mafilosofi, vanyori, vakakwana mumamiriro ekusika, ichi chinowanzoitika. Kuedza kukwana uye kwakanaka chiratidzo chemunhu webasa chero ripi zvaro. Nhamba dzechiitiko dzakakurumbira nevanhu venguva yedu, vanove vakakwana:
- Friedrich Nietzsche - mufilosofi weGermany, anowanzogadzirisa zvakakwana, kunyange hutano hwakazununguka hauna kumudzivisa kuvandudza mabasa ake efilosofi achikudziridza pfungwa yekusimudzira.
- Alexander Mukuru . Nyanzvi dzezvepfungwa dzinoti chido chokukunda nyika dzekune dzimwe nyika kuburikidza nokuvapo kwevakuru mukuru wekusarurama, izvo zvakamusundira kumakambani matsva uye kukunda.
- Leo Tolstoy . Munyori aida kusvika pakukwana uye kukwana muzvinhu zvose, kuva muenzaniso wekodzero yekudzokorora achidzokorora zvakare mabasa ake, "Hondo neRunyararo" maererano nedzimwe nhoroondo dzakanyorwa zvakare 8 kusvika 12.
- Steve Jobs . Muvambi weAmerica mumunda weTI teknolojia, muumbi we Apple akanyatsocherechedza kunyange zvinhu zviduku zvikuru. Muenzaniso wekuratidzwa kwekutendeseka kunogona kunge ichokwadi kuti Steve kwemwedzi mitanhatu akamanikidza vagadziri kuti vadzorezve mupumburu wechipupuriro mu OS X system system, nokudaro kunonoka kusunungurwa kweprojekti yakawanda.
- Edward Norton . Chiremba ane unhu hwakaoma kwazvo uye chido chekuvandudza nguva dzose, kunatsiridza mabasa avo, pane dzimwe nguva kuvhiringidza vashandi. Mushure mekupfura "Incredible Hulk" Norton yakasarudza kupinda paya kuiswa kuti ione kuti zvinhu zvose zvakakwana, izvo zvakarambwa, zvakamugumbura.
Mafirimu nezvevanhu vakakwana
Musoro wekutendeseka wakaratidzwa zvakajeka mumafirimu anotevera:
- " Perfectionist / Un Grand Panron " Firimu film pamusoro pechiremba chiremba Louis Delage, uyo akazvitsaurira mushonga muupenyu hwake hwose. Anoita basa rake zvakakwana, asi hupenyu hwemhuri yake hunokundikana - Louis ndiye munhu akakwana mubasa rake, kune imwe nzvimbo haana nguva, iyo inorwadza zvikuru kumukadzi wake Florence.
- " Black Swan " Nina Sayers bheroerina, anoshanda zvakaoma uye akaoma uye ari manic-compulsive perfectionist. Nina anoedza kuzadzikisa kukwana nekutsungirira kukuru, izvo zvinotungamirira kwaari pakupedzisira kuguma kunotyisa.
- " Kupfuura Gungwa / Kupfuura Ona ". Iyi firimu inobva pane imwe nhoroondo ye nhoroondo yemimhanzi yenyika Bobby Darin. Nzira yake yekuita inoratidzwa. Imwe mukomana wemhuri ine urombo ane chirwere chakakomba - vanachiremba havana kumupa makore anopfuura gumi ehupenyu, asi akararama 37 nekuda kwechido chake chekuimba mumhanzi uye akarota kuti arambe ari mumoyo yevanhu semushushi mukuru wenguva yake.
- " Basa:" Empire of temptation / Jobs ". Steve Jobs munhu anonakidza. Iye anoshanda nesimba uye anokwana uye izvi zvakamubatsira kuti ave izvo zvaakanga ava. Film-biography.
- " Amadeus ". Freestyle tsanangudzo yezvinyorwa zvezvinyorwa zvevanyori vaviri Mozart naSalieri. Mozart ine tarenda inobva kuna Mwari, uye Salieri anoda basa rakawanda uye rakaoma, asi mimhanzi inobuda kunze, pasina kufemerwa. Salieri, nekunakisisa kwake, haagoni kuzviisa pachedu kune chokwadi chokuti Mozart ndiye munyori ane tarenda.