Ukama hwapedyo muhutano huri kutamba, kunyange husati hukuru, asi hunokosha zvikuru. Kushamwaridzana kwepabonde kunobatsira pakubatana, kuchiita kuti vakwanise, vanyanya kuvimba, uye pedyo. Uyewo inopa kubudiswa kwepanyama, kubvisa kusangana kwepabonde.
Kazhinji, kushushikana pakati pevakaroorana kunotanga kupera nekuda kwechirwere pamusoro pemakore akawanda ekuroorana. Kusabatana kwepabonde nekuda kwekusada kwemurume wake kwemavhiki, uye kunyange mwedzi, kunotambudza mukadzi. Kuita zvepabonde hakusi kungogutsikana kwekudiwa kwepanyama, asi kunokanganisa rutivi rwemweya hwehupenyu hwemhuri. Mushure mezvose, zvepabonde zvose zvakanaka zvinofanira kunzwa zvakagamuchirwa.
Ndezvipi zvikonzero uye chii chingaita kana murume asingadi mudzimai?
Kufungisisa nezvenyaya iyi, zvakakosha kuziva kuti zvikonzero nei murume asingadi mudzimai kune zvakawanda uye izvi zvose izvi pachavo. Zvisinei, zvakakosha kufunga nezvemashoko makuru uye akajairika, uyewo kunzwisisa nzira yekugadzirisa dambudziko iri.
Kazhinji, vakadzi vakawanda munyaya iyi vanotanga kufunga kuti murume wavo ane madzimadzi. Iyi sarudzo, yega, haina kubviswa uye haina kujairika. Vakawanda vevarume vanoenda kunopandukira nekuda kwe kurasikirwa kwekufarira kune vavakaroorana navo. Mushure mezvose, vakadzi vanowanzorega kuzvichengetedza nekuda kwebasa nemabasa epamba, uye jira rakagadzirwa nemapfekero uye kutarisa kusina kukwanisa kunogona kuita kuti munhu ave nekwepabonde. Nokudaro, anoenda kunotsvaka musikana anonakidza kune avo vanogona kukwanisa kuwana zvaanoda mumuviri.
Kunyange zvazvo chokwadi chokuti murume haadi mudzimai wake haaiti nguva dzose kuti ane madenzikadzi. Nguva dzose kushungurudzika uye matambudziko ari kushanda, izvo munhu asingazviudze kumba, zvinogona kuchinjawo nguva yakawanda yezvido zvake zvepabonde.
Chinhu chisingawanzoiti, asi chinonyanya kukosha kuti mumiriri wehutano hwakasimba haane chidimbu chehukama hwepedyo, ane hurwere hwehutano. Vanogona kubatanidzwa nehutano hwekubereka, iyo inobata zvakananga kuita zvepabonde kwemuviri wevarume, pamwe chete nehuwandu hwemaharaise, izvo zvinoitawo kuti vasanetseke nekuda kwekutambudzika kana kusagadzikana.
Zvinowanzoitika kuti mumakore ose akagara pamwe chete, hupenyu hwepabonde hwave hunovhiringidza, hapasi zvakasiyana siyana, kushuva uye mufaro. Nokudaro, munhu anokwanisa kurasikirwa nekukwezva kusvika kuhafu yake yechipiri.
Nzira yekuita sei murume anoda mudzimai?
Dzimwe nguva zvikonzero zvekusada kwehukama hwepedyo hwemurume huri mukati make. Zvisinei, kuti murume nguva dzose aida mudzimai, zvakakosha kuita chimwe chinhu chinogona kuchinjwa. Zvakakosha kutarisa chitarisiko chako kwete pamusi wevhiki, kushandiswa kushanda. Pakupera kwevhiki, murume wacho anodawo kumurumbidza mudzimai wake mumba. Kufamba mushure mekunakisa salon uye kuvevedza muviri hakuzove kwakanyanya. Zvakakosha kukudziridza nekudzidza chimwe chinhu chitsva, kuwana zvigadzirwa zvinobatsira uye zvinokuvaraidza , saka, munhu achatanga kuratidza kufarira kune vamwe vaanoda.
Basa rinokosha rinowedzerwa nevekugara mumhepo. Mafungiro, kutsamwa uye kutuka hazvidi munhu, nokuti mushure mokunge kushungurudzika kwakadaro pamusoro pekuda uye kutaura hakugone kuva.
Ko kana murume asingadi mudzimai pamuviri?
Kumirira mwana inguva yakanaka kune vose vakaroora, kunyange zvazvo pasina matambudziko. Mukadzi panguva ino anoda kutarisirwa uye rudo. Murume ari kubhabhatidzwa mumanzwiro ake uye manzwiro ehukama hunouya, uye nekuda kwekuneta mubasa haikwanisi kubhadhara zvakakwana, izvo zvinodiwa kumudzimai wake. Baba vemhuri vanozvidya mwoyo pamusoro pemamiriro emudzimai wavo uye vanotya kuita zvakaipa kune mwana panguva yekuita rudo. Muchiitiko ichi, vanachiremba vepfungwa vanokurudzira kuti ndinyarare ndichitaura nehafu yangu uye ndasarudza pamusoro pezviitiko zvisingatambudzi kana mwana, kana amai.