Kubatana kwababambuya nasekuru mukurera mwana, sekutonga, kunotsanangurwa nezvimwe zvinhu, izvo zvatinokwanisa kusiyanisa:
- basa rekurukuru (isu tichataura pamusoro pavo, sezvo vari vanambuya vanogara vachirera) - kana mbuya vachiri vaduku, vane simba uye vasina kugadzirira kusiya basa, kutaura kwake nevana vazukuru vake, sekutonga, kunofanirwa kufamba uye kugadzwa pamagumo evhiki. Vanasekuru-vepatori vanogona kunzwisisa kupa vana nguva yakawanda;
- kugara - basa rinokosha rinotambidzwa nekuti vanambuya vanorarama-mune imwe imba nevana vaduku kana mune rimwe guta. Rutivi rwemafaro inonyanya kuenzanirana nemasimba uye simba rekutungamirira kune vazukuru;
- hukama hwezvizvarwa - zvinosuruvarisa, dzimwe nguva kuwirirana nevabereki hakuwedzera, nokuti ivo vanozvimiririra kana vanodzingwa kubva muupenyu hwevana vavo uye, maererano nezvo, vana vavo;
- zvido zvevanhu vambuya. Nokudaro, somuenzaniso, munyika yedu zvinowanzoitika kuti vanambuya vanogara vachitora chikamu chikuru mubasa rezera vaduku - vakabatsira mari, vakatora kwevhiki nehotera uye nezvimwe zvakadaro. Uye, somuenzaniso, muEurope hazvibvumirwi, uye vamwe vevakadzi vachangobva kutamisa tsika iyi kumamiriro edu. Ava vanambuya havafungi kuti zvakafanira kupa upenyu hwehupenyu hwavo uye mabasa mukufarira vazukuru vavo.
Chimwe nechimwe chezvikonzero izvi zvine zvakawanda zvinyorwa uye zvinoshandiswa mumashandiro kumhuri imwe neimwe. Kana mbuya vasingabatanidzi mune dzidzo yevana vazukuru, zvose zviri nyore pano. Iyi inyaya yega yega yega uye vana havana kodzero yekusimudzira, rega kutongesa. Ngatitaurire mune mamwe mashoko nezvemamiriro ezvinhu apo kubatanidzwa kwekurukuru kunonyanya kururamisa uye kushanda.
Pros uye hurombo hwekudzidza "mbuya"
Sezvimwe mune mamiriro ezvinhu, mune dzidzo yevana vanambuya vane zvigaro zvavo uye zvinotyisa. Ngatitange nerwendo rwemakumbo asina mubvunzo:
- mwana anogara akatariswa, mbuya vanotarisira kumubvisa kunze kwebindu, kuchikoro, kugara kune zvidzidzo, kudya uye nezvimwe zvakadaro. Munyaya iyi, vabereki vanogona kushanda zvakanaka uye vasingatyi. Mukuwedzera, hapana chikonzero chekubhadhara nanny uye kumubhadhara mari, saka hazvibatsiri mumari yemhuri. Asi izvi zvose nguva dzinobatsira;
- maererano nevamwe vanachiremba epfungwa, vanasekuru havana maonero ekufungidzira, kusiyana nevabereki vanogara vachifananidza vana vavo nevamwe uye vanoisa zvavanoda;
- vanambuya vanogona kuzviisa panzvimbo yemwana uye "vachitaura" naye mumutauro mumwe, nokuti vanogona kuzvigamuchira sezvavanenge vasingagoni kuzvishatisa kubva kumatambudziko avo uye vavariro;
- Vana vakakwidzwa na mbuya vakasiyana nevezera ravo vane kuzvikudza kwakakwirira, izvo zvinovabatsira chaizvo muupenyu;
- mukukudziridza kwepfungwa kwe "vazukuru" vazukuru vanogara vari mberi kwevezera ravo.
Asi hazvisi zvinhu zvose zvakanyatsojeka, panewo nguva dzisina kunaka :
- maererano nezvimwe zvidzidzo, vana vanokurudzirwa navanasekuru vane udyire uye dzimwe nguva vasingadzorwi;
- vanambuya - vamiririri vezera rakasiyana zvakasiyana, naizvozvo kana vachiita dzidzo yevana vakura, mikana yekusaziva uye kunyange kukakavara kwakanaka;
- Dambudziko guru rinorindira mukumirira mhuri apo vazukuru vanokurudzwa naambuya vanopikisana nemaonero ekurera. Kana mwana wacho achidzoswa nguva dzose, aisa mberi asingabvumirane nemumwe nomumwe zvinodiwa, pane mikana yakareba yokuti mwana achakura akavharwa uye neurotic.
Zvechokwadi, mumubvunzo wekubatanidzwa kwevanambuya mukurera mwana, pane dzimwe nguva dzakawanda, zvikuru, dzinotarisirwa pamhuri uye maitiro evanhu. Nokudaro, zvose zvisarudzo maererano nechiyero uye chiyero chekuita izvi kunofanira kutaridzirwa mumwe nomumwe.