Nenguva yakaitika: fate yakakutarisana nemumwe munhu asingafadzi, asi iwe haugoni kusiya uye kubva pakati pekukurukurirana, nokuti kubudirira kwekambani yako kunoenderana nemigumisiro yemusangano? Iro psychology yekukurukurirana nevanhu inotidzidzisa kushandura vavengi vedu kuva shamwari dzakavimbika, pasina kukanganwa nenguva imwechete kuratidza kuti tingawana sei mutauro wakafanana nevanhu vevanhu vakaoma kunzwisisa.
Psychology yekukurukurirana pakati pevanhu
Iwe unowanzowona ruzivo rwekutaurirana here? Ndiko kuti, kutaura kwako kunobatsira sei? Kuti hurukuro iite kuti iwe ufare nguva dzose, uye kwete kuora mwoyo, zvinokosha kunzwisisa mutauriri wevanhu, kuti uone kushanda kwake kune dzimwe nzvimbo, ngatiti, kumuona kubva mukati. Saka, shandisa matanho anotevera ekutaurirana kwepfungwa pakati pevanhu, nekuda kwekuti zvichabvira kuronga kuti mutauriri wacho apiwe:
- The Franklin effect . Munhu wose anoziva kuti munhu uyu aiva nematarenda akawanda. Saka, kana aida kukunda kuvimba kweumwe munhu akanga asingafadzi kwaari. Franklin akangwarira kuti akwerete bhuku. Kubva panguva iyo, ukama huri pakati pevaviri hwave hune ushamwari. Izvo zvose ndezvokuti kana mumwe munhu akakuitira nyasha, nenguva inotevera, kuva nesimba kudarika, munhu uyu achapindura pane zvaunokumbira zvakare. Mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro, munhu anonyatsoziva "anonyora" iwe nhamba yevaya vanomubatsira zvirokwazvo, kana zvakadaro.
- Mukova wakananga kuhuma . Iwe unoda chimwe chinhu kubva kune interlocutor here? Kumubvunza zvinopfuura zvakakosha. Zvechokwadi, sarudzo yekuramba haisi kusarudzwa. Mushure mechinguva, musimbise mubvunze zvakare. Iyo nyanzvi ichasangana nedambudziko uye kana, kana uchinzwa chikumbiro chinokurudzira, unzwe uchisungirwa kwauri.
- Mimicry . Kuti uwane tsvakurudzo yakajeka yehutano hwekukurukurirana nekubatana kwevanhu, mumwe anofanira kutendeukira kumabasa aAlan Pisa, murume akadzidza zvakadzama mutauro wemafambiro emuviri. Saka, mune rimwe remabhuku ake anorondedzera nzira yakadaro yekutevedzera munzanga, inonzi "mimicry" kana "kufungisisa". Iwe dzimwe nguva unofunga kana kuti unozvidzokorora zvinyorwa izvi, mamiriro ekutenderera kwako. Izvi zvinovandudza kukurukurirana. Sei? Hungu, vanhu vanowanzonzwira tsitsi avo vane zvishoma zvishoma, asi zvakafanana naye.
- Mazita . Dale Carnegie, munyori weChiratidzo Chokuwana Shamwari Nevanhu Vanokurudzira, akanyora kuti kumunzwa kwevanhu, hapana chinotapira kupfuura inzwi rezita rake. Kufambira mberi kubva pane izvi, panguva yekukurukurirana, usakanganwa kudana munhu nezita. Izvo zvinoenda kune kusikwa kweruzhinji rwemubati. Iwe unoda kuti interlocutor yako anzwe tsitsi kune iwe here? Mutumidze kuti shamwari yako, uye nokukurumidza achazonzwa kugunzva ushamwari kumunhu hwake.
- Teererai izvi . Iro psychology yekukurukurirana nevanhu zvakasimba haitsigiri kutaurira munhu nokuda kwekukanganisa kwake, kana iwe uchida kumuita munhu wako akafanana nemafungiro. Iwe unoda kuratidza kusawirirana nemashoko ake here? Zvino nguva inotevera, kuteerera mutauro wake, edza kunzwisisa kuti chii chaasina kufara nacho. Zvichida anotambudzika kana kuora mwoyo nechimwe chinhu. Edza chero mamiriro ezvinhu kuti uwane hukama huri mune zvaunofunga,
uye zvino, kutsanangura, iva nechokwadi kuti utange chirevo nemvumo yekutanga. Iyo yekupedzisira inovimbisa kuti interlocutor haadi kuenda mukati mehurukuro. - Rephrase . Muhutano hwekukurukurirana nevanhu vakwegura, nzira iyi inonyanya kubudirira kupfuura yekare yapfuura. Vakawanda vakadaro vanoda kunzwa uye kunzwa, uye saka, varonga ivo pachavo, vachinyatsoteerera. Mune mamwe mazwi: dzoka zvakare izvo interlocutor akakuudza. Nokudaro, iwe uchakwanisa kuvaka ukama hwakanaka. Zvakanakisisa kushandura mutsara unongonzwa mumubvunzo.