Chii chinoreva hupenyu hwevanhu? Pamwe mukutsvaga rudo? Ndizvo chete izvo zvingatarisa, marudzi e rudo, sezvinoitika, haasi mashomanana.
Rudo rwei?
Isu tinoda shoko rokuti "rudo" mune izwi risina simba, rinofukidza meso edu. Asi mushure mezvose, rudo rwakasiyana, rumwe rudo, pfungwa iyi hairevi. Saka, rudzi rworudo rwupi?
Chimwe chinhu chinonakidza chinowanikwa chinopiwa nemuzivi Erich Fromm mubasa rake The Art of Love. Mhando dzorudo mubhuku rino dzinonzi zvinhu, uye kunzwa kwaro kunoonekwa senzira yekuziva zvakavanzika zvevanhu. Saka, ndudzi dzipi dzorudo kubva kuAm?
- Rudo rwehama nderokufunga kunobva pakufunga kwehumwe nevamwe vanhu. Ichi rudo pakati pekuenzana.
- Rudo rweMaternal (mubereki)-harwuratidziri mumai ( baba) kumwana, kunzwa uku kwakavakirwa pachido chekubatsira zvisikwa zvisina simba, zvisingabatsiri.
- Rudo pachako. Kubvira kunofunga kuti zvakafanira kuratidza rudo kune mumwe munhu. Muzivi anofunga kuti munhu asingazvidi iye pachake, haagoni kukwanisa zvachose.
- Rudo kuna Mwari runoparidzwa tambo yakabatana yemweya wemunhu. Fromm inofunga kuti ihwo hwaro hwemarudzi ose erudo.
- Rudo rwekuda - manzwiro evanhu vaviri vakuru kune mumwe nemumwe. Rudo rwakadaro runoda kubatana kwakakwana, kubatana nemusanangurwa wako. Chimiro cherudo urwu rwakashamisa, naizvozvo kunzwa uku kunogona kuwirirana maererano nemamwe marudzi erudo, uye kuva chido chekuzvimirira.
Asi Tom haasi kuzvidzivirira pakufunga nezvemhando shanu dzorudo, anofunga nezvemhando mbiri dzakasiyana dze rudo-yekusika nekuparadza. Wekutanga anosimbisa manzwiro ekuzara kwehupenyu, inofungidzira kuratidzwa kwekutarisira, kufarira, kupindura kwechokwadi uye kunogona kutungamirirwa kune vose munhu uye nyaya kana pfungwa. Wechipiri anoedza kubvisa munhu waanoda musununguko; chaizvoizvo, iyo inoparadza. Asi izvi hazvisi zvose, Kubva kunowana maitiro akasiyana-siyana ekuratidzwa kworudo, kusiyanisa pakati pehutano nemafomu.
Asi pasinei nokuti marudzi mazhinji erudo aripo, muzivi anongotarisa chete iyo isingatauri munhu mumwe chete kuti ave wechokwadi. Kana iwe uchida munhu mumwe chete uye usina hanya nevamwe vose, saka izvi zvinogona kunzi symbiosis, asi kwete rudo.
Pfungwa ye rudo pakati pevaGiriki vekare
Mubvunzo werudzi rwei rudo, kufarira vanhu kubvira kare, semuenzaniso, muGreece yekare, pane tsanangudzo yemhando dzose dzorudo.
- Agape. Rudzi urwu rwe rudo runopa zvibayiro. Ichi rudo, kugadzirira kuzvida-kupa. Munyika yechiKristu, manzwiro akadaro anoonekwa sekuratidzwa kwerudo kumuvakidzani wako. Hakuna nzvimbo yekukwezva kune vadikanwa, zvichienderana nekunze kwake.
- Eros. VaGiriki vakadana shoko iri pakarepo, rudo rwechido. Manzwiro aya anowanzotora maitiro ekunamata, nokuti akavakirwa zvikurukuru pakuzvipira, uye chete ipapo pamusungo wepabonde.
- Storge. Kazhinji inhanho inotevera mukufambiswa kwefomu yapfuura. Ipapo ushamwari huwedzerwa kune unyoro. Kunyangwe ingave imwe nzira iyo yose - kufarira nekuyemura kunoonekwa pashure pemakore mazhinji eshamwari.
- Filio. Rudo rwakadaro runowanzonzi platonic, nekuda kwemarudzi ose erudo rwaive Filia uyo akakwidzwa naPlato pane imwe nzira. Iyi manzwiro anobva pakukwezva mune zvemweya, tinogona kutaura kuti rudo rudo rwemuviri wakachena. Tinozvinzwa nekuda kweshamwari dzedu dzepamusoro, vabereki nevana.
- Mania. Rudo urwu rwainzi "kupenga kubva kuna vanamwari" nevaGiriki uye kwaifungidzirwa kurangwa chaiye. Nokuti rudo rwakadaro rwunopera, runoita kuti munhu ane shungu anzwe kutambudzika, kazhinji anowira kune chinangwa chekuda. Iyi manzwiro anokuvadza, iyo inorayira kuti nguva dzose ive pedyo nechinangwa chekunamatira, inokuita unzwe uchishuva kupenga uye godo.
Rudzi rworudo rwakanyanya kuoma kudaro rwakaoma, zvose runobva pane izvo zvinoonekwa sekushanda. Kana tikarangarira mupfungwa yemanzwiro, hapana chinogona kufanana naMania naEros, asi manzwiro akadaro anogara kwenguva pfupi. Mamwe mhuka haaiti dutu rakadaro remanzwiro mumweya yedu, asi anokwanisa kugara nesu kwenguva refu, dzimwe nguva upenyu hwavo hwose.