Hapana nharaunda yehupenyu hwedu yakakombwa nenhema dzakawanda sekuita zvepabonde. Uye mubvunzo woumhandara mune izvi hapana akaenzana. Uye kunyange kana iri munyaya yekusachena kwevakadzi, yakakudzwa uye panguva imwe chete "yakadzingwa", dzimwe nguva mibvunzo isina kuverenga yakajeka inotanga kubuda, kana zvakakosha kutaura kuti mhandara pakati pevakomana yakakomberedzwa neara yakakurumbira yemafungiro, dzimwe nguva kure kure nechokwadi. Saka, huri huri hupi hwevakomana, uye "vanorasikirwa" nayo sei, uye kazhinji, ivo vanorasikirwa noumhandara hwavo - musoro wehurukuro yedu yanhasi.
Nhema uye Ichokwadi
Nhema nhamba 1. Vakomana vanorasikirwa noupombwe hwavo mberi kwevasikana
Munyika dzakawanda, nhau yakave kwemazana emakore yakawanda yakasimudzira humi kusvika panzvimbo yechinhu chitsvene, icho vasikana vanofanira kuchengetedzwa nenzira dzose. Uye kana mukadzi achigona kuzvikudza nemhandara hwake, zvino, murume, sekutonga, anotsvaga kubvisa zita rokuti "mhandara", nokukurumidza kana zvichibvira, zvishoma nemashoko. Saka kune vakadzi vane makore gumi nemasere-vanoda, vanotaura vachida pamusoro pezvavanoita kune vezera rinoshamisa. Imwe mhandara yemhandara inoda kusiya mibvunzo pamusoro pepabonde, asi vashomanana chaizvo vanhu vanonyatsoziva mukadzi, kungopinda munguva yekuchinja. Kurasikirwa kwemhandara kune vakomana kazhinji kunowanzoitika munguva yakareba - mumakore 16-19 (uye izvi zvakarurama, nokuti panguva yekare, vakomana vasati vagadzirira zvepabonde mupfungwa). Izvo zvakakwirira yezana yemhandara dzakwegura, makore anopfuura 25. Vazhinji vavo vanozvidzivirira nemaune kushamwaridzana, vachida "vasikana" kubva kune zvekutengesa zvepabonde kana kunyange kubva munyika.
Nhema nhamba 2. Kana murume wacho achiri mhandara, ndiye akaipa uye anorwara
Zvinokonzera kumhandara pakati pevakomana zvinogona kushumira zvinhu zvakawanda: hutachiona hwemunhu (kupera, kusinganzwisisiki), ruzivo rwekutanga rwusina kubudirira, zvidzidzo zvechitendero kana kurera zvakasimba. Mhandara inogona kunge iine rudo inozvichengetera kune yekutanga uye yega.
Nhema nhamba 2. Vakomana vanokuvadza zvakare kuti varasikirwa noumhandara hwavo
Zvingangove zvichiitika, nhema inobva pane chimwe chinhu chakadai sephimosis - congenital kana (zvisiri zvishoma) yakagadzirirwa chirwere - kuderedza mhete yepamberi, iyo inodzivisa kuziviswa kwakakwana kwomusoro wepenisi. Muzvokwadi, mhandara yemukati yenyama haina kuratidzirwa nenzira ipi zvayo, i.e. umhandara pakati pevakomana zvinoreva kungoshaya kwepabonde nemumwe wako. Kana mhandara inogona kukonzera kushungurudzwa kwepabonde pasina kushandisa kupinda mukati memudzimai, i.e. kwete kutevedzera zvepabonde, mhandara, chero ipi zvayo, yakatove yakagadzikana pamakumbo ake marudzi ese ekukakavadzana uye kukanganisa, kuitira kuti muviri wechikadzi urege kumupa chero kushungurudzika.
Nhema nhamba 3. Nguva yokutanga nguva dzose inopedza mashoma mashomanana
Kuzvidzivirira kumhandara yemukomana kunogona kukwevedzwa kwenguva refu nekuda kwekutya kusasangana nezvinodiwa zvemudiwa. Maererano nekugadzirirwa kwatinoitwa nedzidzo, murume anofanira kuita basa rakaoma. Kana iyo jaya risina kutsunga kureurura kumusikana musina mhosva, saka, zvichida, mitsipa yake ichave yakakwana. Panogona kunge kune matambudziko nekugadzirwa kana kuchinjwa. Kuzvidzivirira kumhandara mumurume kunogona kuve kusina korona nejasimusi zvachose. Kunyange zvazvo dzimwe nguva, chokwadi, "tsime remanzwiro" rinotanga kurova nguva isati yasvika.
Nzira yekudzivisa sei mukomana wemhandara?
Kana mukomana wako achibvuma kuti akanga asati ava nehutano hwepabonde, zvakakosha kunzwisisa kuti une basa guru. Hongu, iine mutoro, nokuti hapana munhu anokakavara kuti munhu anorega shamwari yeusikana, anofanira kuva munyoro uye ane hanya. Icho chirevo chokuti unhu hwemhandara hwemhandara haisi kuratidzirwa nenzira ipi zvayo, haibvumi kushushikana kwepfungwa kwemunhu. Kubva kuti varume vanorasikirwa sei nemhandara, mune ramangwana, upenyu hwavo hwose hwepabonde hunogona kuvimba.
Pasina mhosva iwe unofanira kukaseka kana kuseka mhandara, uye kana yakasvika pakubhedha, ivai yakanyanyisa.