Nepo vamwe vachienda kunodzidzisa nekuverenga nyaya pamusoro pekugadzirisa, vamwe vanofunga kuti zvinorevei "kutonga munhu." Kuti tinyatsonzwisisa nheyo iyi, tichakurukura mienzaniso yakawanda yezvinyorwa zvekugadzirisa, uye tichaongorora kuti munhu angashandisa nzira dzakadaro sei.
Zvinoreva izwi rokuti "kushandisa"
Chokutanga, ngatitarisei mubvunzo wezvinorehwa ne "kushandura". Muchirevo chekufunga kwepfungwa kwechirevo ichi, kushandiswa kwekutonga ndiko kwakavanzika kutonga kweumwe munhu. Nekubatsira kwekugadzirisa nzira, unogona kuita kuti munhu atore pfungwa yako kana kuita chimwe chinhu chinokubatsira kwauri. Zvisinei, hazvidikanwi kuva nyanzvi dzepfungwa dzepfungwa kuti uchengetedze vamwe - hazvisi chakavanzika chokuti vanhu vakawanda vanoita izvi pamhuri yavo, zvachose vasina kufunga, intuitively.
Mienzaniso yekunyengera muhukama
Mhuri kushandiswa kazhinji inowanika, uye avo vanobatana navo havatombozvizivi nguva dzose. Somuenzaniso:
- Amai-manipulator anowanzowanikwa. Sezvo mutemo, uyu ari oga, mukadzi ane udyire asingadi kurega mwana wake / mwanasikana wake, kunyange kana nguva yakakwirira yokuti vana vake vavake mhuri yavo pachavo. Vanaamai vakadaro vanoda chaizvo rubatsiro uye kutsigirwa, nguva dzose vanoda kutarisirwa , kuisa mhino dzavo muhukama hwevana vavo, kutsoropodza kusarudza kwavo, kurambidza ukama hwavo (nemumwe munhu kana kunyangwe asati anyora mumwe mubvunzo, somuenzaniso).
- Male manipulator. Munhu akadaro anoziva achiita basa chero ripi zvaro kuburikidza nemaoko ake, anoputsa chimwe chinhu pasi kana kumubata panguva yebasa rake pamba, kuitira kuti anokwanisa kugadzikana kuti anonyanya kufara uye anoenda muzororo. Mumhuri yakadaro, matambudziko ose anoiswa pamapfudzi emukadzi.
Iwe unogona kutarisa mienzaniso mizhinji, kusanganisira kushandiswa kwevakadzi, asi chinangwa chavo chakajeka: munhu anogona kugadzirisa, uye anogona kuita nemaune chido cheumwe munhu nekuita kwake.
Nzira yekushandisa sei murume wake?
Nzira yakakosha uye inonyanya kushandisa yekushandisa murume ndeye "kushaya simba kwevakadzi." Uye iwe unofanirwa kuzviita nemafungiro - kutarisira basa racho, asi nezvose zvaunoita zvinoratidza kuti haugone kurarama. Kana munhu achisarudza kuuya kuzokubatsira, iva nechokwadi chekumurumbidza, uudze kuti kunze kwake iwe haungadai wakazviita. Ichava yakanaka zvakare mushure mechinguva kuti uyeuke pamusoro pemabasa ake uye zvakare zvakare kumurumbidza. Iyi ndiyo imwe nzira inofadza zvikuru yekuti zvose kushandisa zvakanaka, kuitira kubatsirana.