Izvo zvisinganzwisisiki zvakakosha ndeyezviitiko zvekunzwa mupfungwa uye mupfungwa kwevanhu, zvinoratidzirwa mukutadza kwekufunga kwewe iwe uye hukuru hwevamwe. Munhu ane unhu hwakakomba anonzwa asingabatsiri, asina kufanira, chimwe chinhu chakafanana nechigadzirwa chakakosha. Dambudziko iri harubvumiri kuti ararame norugare, zvichikonzera mishonga yakawanda uye kuora mwoyo. Mukufunga kwepfungwa, hutsika hwakaderera hunofungidzirwa kuti hunofungidzirwa kutora mamiriro ezvinhu ehupenyu hwehupenyu hwevanhu. Inogona kuva inherera kuvanhu vose uye haisi chirwere chepfungwa. Mune mamwe mamiriro ezvinhu, zvinotobatsira, pakufungisisa zvakare kukosha kwayo uye nekuvandudzwa kwakanaka kwomunhu oga. Saka iwe unobvisa sei kuderera kwakakomba uye unofanira iwe kubvisa?
Mhedziso yekusaderera inogona kubuda nekuda kwezvikonzero zvakasiyana siyana:
- kushungurudzika kwepfungwa;
- hupenyu hunokundikana;
- rusarura, nezvimwewo.
Wokutanga kukudziridza nheyo yehutsika hwakakosha waiva Adler, uyo akati iyo kunzwa kwakaberekwa pazera remakore. Akaratidza kusadzivirirwa uye asingabatsiri kuva munhu anozvarwa. Muhupenyu hwake hwose anoedza kuzvisimbisa mumasangano, kutanga muchechi yeklasi, ipapo kuchikoro uye kubasa. Munhu wose ane kukanganisa, asi mumwe nomumwe anovabata nenzira dzakasiyana. Mumwe munhu anomuka uye, achizununguswa pachake neguruva, anoenderera mberi, uye mumwe munhu anoputsa ndokuzvidza mhosva yake.
Kuzvidzivirira kwakaoma - zviratidzo
Vanhu vazhinji havatombozivi kuti vanotambura nechirwere chekuzvidzivirira kwavo pachavo. Vanowona zvakaoma kutaura kune vamwe uye vari kugara vachitarisana nezvipingamupinyi. Zviratidzo zvinotevera zvichakubatsira kuti unzwisise kuzviremekedza kwako.
- Kuzvimirira oga. Vanhu vane kuzvidzora kwekuzvidzivirira vanowanzotarisana nevamwe. Kazhinji kazhinji izvi hazvisi kuvhara kunze, asi mukati. Vamwe havasi kuita kuti munhu uyu ave akadzingwa, asi iye pachake anozviona seasina kodzero yevanhu vavo. Iye anotya kuita kana kutaura chimwe chinhu chisingafadzi muboka ravo, ndicho chikonzero anovhara.
- Kurwisana. Ichi chiitiko chekuzvibata ndezvekuedza kuzviratidza muchechi. Kusakwanisa kutaurirana nevanhu, pfungwa yekuregererwa pane yavo inokonzera utsinye. Nzira yakadaro yepakutanga yekuzvidzivirira.
- Kubvisa mutoro kubva kune musoro wakagwinya. Kana zvikakundikana, kutambura kubva kune unhu hwakakwana, unoziva kuti akaita chikanganiso, asi anoedza kukanda mhosva kune kunze kwezvinhu. Anoruramisirwa pamberi pevanhu vose, achipa mhosva yekufa uye nhanho, nzvimbo uye kambani yakaipa. Haangagoni kutakura mutoro wekukundikana kwake uye kukanganisa kwake.
- Kudzivisa makwikwi. Munhu ane hanya kuzviremekedza anotya kuzvienzanisa nomumwe munhu. Anonyatsoziva kuti acharasikirwa nokuenzanisa. Haaiti chikamu mumakwikwi uye haaiti chero kuedza kubudirira.
- Tsvaga zvikanganiso. Munhu ane unhu hwakakomba haapi kupa zororo kune kubudirira kwevamwe vanhu. Ari kutsvaga kukanganisa mukubudirira kwevanhu, kuderedza kuzvidzora kwavo. Ari kuedza kusimbisa munhu wose ari mugomba rake.
- Hypersensitivity. Mumwe murume anopindura nekutsoropodza uye kurumbidzwa. Kunzwa rumbidzo, ivo vacharamba kubvuma kwake, vachida kunzwa huchapupu. Kazhinji kazhinji pane kuratidzwa kwakadaro kwehutsika hwakaoma kune vakadzi. Vanongokumbira kukumbiro. Kutsiura kunosanganisirawo zvombo zvisingagoneki uye kuedza kuzviruramisa pachako.
- Kutya kukanganisa. Mutemo wegoridhe wemunhu akaoma ndeyekuti: "Uyo asingaiti chinhu haaiti zvikanganiso." Vanotya kutora chero basa chero ripi zvaro nokuda kwekutya kusakunda naro.
Nzira yekugadzirisa nayo kuderera kwakaoma?
Kunzwa kuti kusina maturo kunogona kuonekwa kune munhu chero upi zvake pane imwe nguva yehupenyu. Izvi zvakajairika uye vanhu vari kupfuura munguva ino uye vari kupora. Zvakakosha kubvisa, kana kunzwa uku kwakawana unhu husingaperi. Kurapa kwakakosha uye kudzidzisa kunogona kubatsira munhu kuwana simba, achida ivo uye kukunda matambudziko ose. Dambudziko rehutsika hwakakosha richagadziriswa panguva apo munhu anozvida iye pachake.