Kazhinji unogona kunzwa mutsara "hama usasarudza." Kutaura izvi, munhu anoreva kuti hapana kushamwaridzana nehama, uye kana isiri yemitemo yehutano, ipapo misangano pamwe navo haizove yakamboitika zvachose. Asi zvakadini nehutano hwemhuri, tsika, zvose zvinosanganisa zvizvarwa zvakasiyana-siyana kuva zvese, hazvina here chaizvoizvo nzvimbo mune zvemazuva ano?
Ndeipi mhuri inokosha?
Isu tinofara kushandisa mazwi okuti "mhuri inokosha" mukukurukurirana, asi izvi zvakaoma kufungidzira. Kuzvinyatsorondedzera hazvirevi, zvichida, mhuri dzinokosha ndizvo zvinokosha kumhuri, inodiwa "cement" iyo boka revanhu vane mazita ehutano akafanana rinobatanidza munharaunda yakabatana. Zvinotarisa kuti mumhuri imwe neimwe chinhu chakakosha chinhu chimwe chazvo chazvo: mumwe unoda kuvimba, apo vamwe vanoda kuti kubudirira kwebhizimisi yemhuri. Zviri pachena kuti mumhuri idzi mbiri tsika dzichasiyana. Saka, kutaura kuti mhuri inofanirwa kudii, uye kunyanya kutaura pamusoro pehurumende yavo, basa iri harina maturo, mhuri imwe neimwe ine maonero ayo pane zvinokosha kune iyo, iyo pachayo inotarisa zvinokosha. Uye hazvishamisi - isu tose takasiyana.
Somuenzaniso, huchangobva kuumbwa hukama hwehukama, umo hukuru hwemhuri hunhu hunyararo, zvinowanzodiwa, kuremekedzwa. Iyi ndiyo inonzi chikwata chemhuri, mutual tender feelings pano inopera kumashure kana kuti haisi kutamba chero basa zvachose. Kune mhuri dzinocherechedza chikonzero cherudo, chimiro cheukama chichaita sechikara, asi, zvisinei, chiriko. Sezvo pane dzimwe dzakawanda zvehukama hwemhuri.
Nokudaro, hapana chigadziro chakagadzirirwa chatinofanira kukudziridza mumhuri yako. Iwe unogona kungofunga kuti mhuri ndeipi uye unofunga zvakakunakira iwe, uye chii chichave chisingabatsiri.
Ndeipi mhuri inokosha?
- Kukurukurirana. Kune munhu chero upi zvake, kutaurirana kunokosha, iye anoda kugovana ruzivo, kuratidza maonero ake, kugamuchira mazano uye mazano. Kazhinji mhuri dzinenge dzisina tsika yekukurukurirana, uye tinounza mufaro wedu wose uye kuzvidya mwoyo kune shamwari uye psychoanalysts. Kana pane hukama hwemumhuri mumhuri, kukakavadzana uye kukakavara zvishoma, nokuti mibvunzo yakawanda iri kugadziriswa, zvakakosha kuti nhengo dzigare pasi patafura yekukurukurirana.
- Kuremekedza. Kana nhengo dzemhuri dzisingataurirane, hadzifariri maonero emumwe nomumwe, saka kutaurirana kwepakati pavo pakati pavo hakuzove. Zvakakosha kuti tisakanganise kuremekedza uye kutya, vana vanofanira kuremekedza baba vavo, uye vasingatyi iye. Kuremekedza kunoratidzwa mukuda kubvuma manzwiro, zvido nemafungiro emumwe munhu, kwete kuisa pfungwa yake pachake pane iye, asi kuedza kumunzwisisa.
- Kunzwa zvichikosha kumhuri yako. Kudzokera kumusha, tinoda kuona mufaro mumaziso evanodiwa, tinoda kunzwa rudo rwavo, kuziva kuti hazvibvi pane zvakabudirira uye kukunda. Ndinoda kutenda kuti munguva yake yekusununguka nhengo yese yemhuri ichawana imwe nguva kune imwe, uye kwete kuenda kumusoro mumatambudziko ake. Imba inhare, uye mhuri igungwa rakanyarara, zvichida, munhu wose anoda.
- Kugona kukanganwira. Hapana mumwe wedu akakwana uye mhuri ndiyo nzvimbo yekupedzisira kwatinoda kunzwa kunzwa kushorwa nekutsoropodzwa mune kero yedu. Nokudaro, munhu anofanira kudzidza kuregerera kukanganisa kwevamwe uye kuti arege kudzokorora zvake.
- Tsika. Mumwe munhu ane tsika yekuunganidza mhuri yose musi waMay 9 pamwe na mbuya-veteran veHondo Yenyika Yechipiri, mumwe munhu anotarisa mafirimu paMugovera, achiunganidza muimba neTV, uye mumwe mwedzi woga woga mhuri yose inobva kunze kweguta (mumugwagwa we bowling, paki yemvura). Mhuri imwe neimwe ine tsika yayo, asi huripo
kubatana uye kuita kuti mhuri ive yakasiyana. - Mutoro. Iyi manzwiro anowirirana nevanhu vose vakagadzwa nevana, tinoedza kuidzidzisa nekukurumidza. Asi panofanira kuva nemutoro kwete kwekushanda nguva, asi kumhuri, nokuti zvose zvatinoita kumhuri uye nhengo dzayo dzose dzinoda kuziva izvi.
Nheyo dzemhuri dzakawanda, chete dzinowanikwa pane dzose dzakanyorwa. Kune mhuri dzakawanda, zvakakosha kuva norusununguko, nzvimbo yako pachako, kurongeka, kutendeseka zvakakwana muhukama, rupo.