Kubatana hakusi nyore. Zvinowanzotaridzika kwatiri kuti isu moga tingadai takagadzirisa zviri nani: "Kana iwe uchida kuita zvakanaka - zviite iwe pachako." Asi iyi inhema. Pasina kambani, hatingave takapukunyuka nzira yekushanduka-shanduka, taisakwanisa kubudirira mubasa redu, tingadai takavaka ukama hwemhuri uye hukama.
Dhiyabhorosi Twyla Tharp anozivikanwa akashanda pamwe nezviuru zvevatambi uye mapoka anenge makumi mana emakore makumi mana emabasa ake, pamwe chete nemagweta, vanogadzira, vanyori uye makambani anotsigira. Mubhuku rinonzi "Tsika yekushanda pamwe chete" inoudza nzira yekuita chero kubatana kwakanaka uye kunobatsira.
1. Tanga newe
Kushandira pamwe chinhu chinobatsira, inzira yekushanda maererano nevamwe. Asi inotanga kubva pane imwe nzvimbo yekuona. Usati wagadzirira basa reboka, funga nezvako. Iwe unonzwa uchitenda kwakasimba kune shamwari dzako, hama nevanoda here? Unokwanisa here kushandisa nzira dzekutaurirana nadzo pamwe chete nekubatana pamwe nevamwe? Iwe hausi kukudzinga vanhu kure nekuvimbika here? Iwe unotsigira chinangwa chakafanana here?
Kana iwe uchida kutadza kuvimba nevanhu uye usatenda mune chinangwa chakafanana, mumamiriro ezvinhu ebasa rekubata dambudziko richava iwe. Edza kuchinja mafungiro ako.
2. Sarudza vakaroorana pamusoro pezinga
Kushanda pamwe kwakafanana neti tennis: unogona kuvandudza unyanzvi hwako nekungotamba nemumwe wako pamusoro pezinga. Nokudaro, kana une mukana wekusarudza, chengeta vanhu vakachenjera uye vanofara. Vatarise uye vadzidze. Zvichida pakutanga pakutanga zvichava zvakaoma kwauri, asi munguva pfupi iwe uchanzwa kuti hausati wati kuona seboka rakaipa, uye iwe uchawana mikana mitsva uye chiratidzo chitsva.
3. Gamuchira shamwari sezvavari
Mukutanga kwema1970, chikadzi chinonzi choreographer chakanga chisina kuwanikwa mumatambo echikwata. Hazvishamisi kuti vamwe varume vakomana vanovhiringidzika kana vakapindura kana kwete kumirairo yangu. Ndaizoti ivo havana kundinzwisisa.
Ndakabvepiko kubva pakapera iyi? Ndakazivisa kuti ndakanga ndisingazoregi chimiro changu kune vatambi. Akataura kuti ndinoda kusiyana: vhidhiyo yose ichaita zvaanoshandiswa kuita.
Kubatana kunotsigira kuchinja, nokuti kunotikomberedza kubvuma pfungwa yemudiwa - uye kugamuchira zvinhu zvose maari zvaanosiyana nesu. Kusiyana kwedu kunokosha zvikuru. Kana iwe uchida kuti shamwari dzako dzive nekugara iwe pachako, unoda kuvabvuma sezvavari.
4. Gadzirira kukurukurirana
Pandakava nemafungiro ekugadzira kuvhiringidza kwemitambo yaBilly Joel, ndaifanira kuratidza ini kubva kurudyi. Saka ndakagadzira vatambi vatanhatu ndokuita vhidhiyo yemaminiti makumi maviri. Kwapera izvo chete ndakadana Billy kumba kwangu ndokuratidza kuti ingenzi dzake dzinogona kuva sei mukurumbira mukuru wekutamba Broadway mumhanzi. Mushure mokuongorora mharidzo yangu, akabva abvuma.
Kana iwe uchida kuti kukurukurirana kwekutanga kubudirire, gadzirira ivo nguva isati yasvika. Funga pamusoro pezvose zvinopesana newe pamberi pemusangano uye uzvifungidzire mune chiedza chakanaka.
5. Kurukurirana chiso nechiso
Kushandira pamwe kunowanzoitwa kuburikidza ne-e-mail - ine zvinyorwa zvakabatanidzwa, video kana audio. Zvinosuruvarisa, teknolojia inogadzira mitemo yavo pachayo uye inoita zvisarudzo nokukurumidza kupfuura iwe wagadzirira kugamuchira. Nokuda kwekugadzirisa chero kupi zvako navo, kubvumirana kune chikamu chomunhu kunodiwa. Saka, pose paunenge uine mukana, taurirana chiso nechiso.
Uye kana pasina kukwanisa kwakadai, usakanganwa kuisa kukurukurirana-kunyange ne-e-mail-kunyange chikamu chiduku chemoyo. Uri kutaurira munhu mupenyu. Iwe haufaniri kuderedza hupenyu hwako.
Uye usakanganwa kuti kunyange iyo tsamba inotonhora inenge isina kutora musangano wega.
6. Zvichenese munyika yemumwe wako
Chisarudzo chakanakisisa ndechokusangana nemunyori mu studio yake, pamwe neasayendisiti - mu laboratori yake, pamwe nemutungamiriri - muhofisi yake. Sezvo wakagamuchira kamwechete kamwe pfungwa yenyika umo munhu angangodaro anowirirana naye uye anoshanda, zviri nyore kujekesa chikamu chepfungwa pamusoro pekushandira pamwe.
Kana ndisina kushanyira Donald Knaak, anozivikanwa se "junkman" (muchiChirungu, "junk" + murume - "murume"), mumusangano wake, paanovaka zvivako zvaanotamba, kubva mumarara, handina kunzwisisa, kana kukoshesa zvinyorwa zvake, iyo FedEx yakabudiswa zuva nezuva kubva kuVermont kuenda kuNew York studio kwandakanga ndashanda pa ballet "Kufungidzira paRwizi Styx".
7. Usatora zvakawanda kupfuura iwe
Rega waaita naye aite basa rake. Chido chokupinda mumatambudziko ake nguva dzose chinotungamira kubva pane chisarudzo chake. Muedzo unogona kuva wakasimba. Asi kana akazora, zvinongounza matambudziko akawanda.
Usazvipa mari yako kupfuura iwe. Rambai muedzo wokukwira kune mumwe munhu webasa rebasa kana mutoro. Chengetedza mamiriro ezvinhu akaoma, kana zvichidiwa, asi tora chikamu chega bedzi kana nguva ichikurira, uye mhinduro yaunoda haifaniri kutarisirwa. Unotyisa mukati mako maniac-murairi.
8. Edzai itsva
Mumwe munhu anopa pfungwa kune mumwe, uye anomurova zvakare, sekutennis. Uye ikozvino tiri kutotarisa pfungwa yedu kubva kune rumwe rutivi. Izvi zvinoitika nokuda kwechikonzero chimwe chete - shamwari yako nguva dzose inopa pfungwa yako mumashoko ake pachayo, usingazodzokorori mazwi acho chaiwo.
Kuvonga izvi unogona kuona mikana mitsva, nzira uye nzira dzekuzadzisa chinangwa. Mifungiro yedu yakafanana inobatanidza uye inoonekwa muhutano hutsva. Unofanirwa kuva wakagadzirira kutsvaga nzira itsva uye zvishandiso zvausingave wakashandisa kare. Kuda kuedza chimwe chinhu chitsva kunogona kuva chikonzero chekubatana kwakasimba.
9. Funga katatu katatu usati washanda neshamwari
Zvakaoma kukunda muedzo wokushanda nevanhu waunoziva uye rudo. Zvinoratidzika kuti kana tikabvumirana nevaya vanogovana mazano edu nemafungiro edu, basa racho richafamba zvakanaka. Hauna nguva yekutarisa shure, kuti uwane sei pfuma / kuva mukurumbira / kuzvizadzisa.
Usakurumidza. Mhedziso yenguva pfupi chinhu chimwe chete. Bhizimisi refu rakasiyana zvachose. Yokutanga mutambo, chiitiko, yechipiri chiri pedyo newanano kana, pane kudaro, nguva yejeri mune imwe sero.
Mudiwa akanaka zviri nyore kuwana pane shamwari yakanaka. Kana iwe uchikoshesa ushamwari, iwe unoda kuichengeta. Chimwe chirongwa chekubatana chichaisa hukama hwako pangozi.
10. Iti "Maita"
Pose pane mukana, kaviri pane pazuva, "ndinokutendai" hazvirevi.
Kubva mubhuku rinonzi "Tsika yekushanda pamwechete"